As an iconic American performer, Cher is a woman known by all. In fact, we know some pretty intimate details about her life. However, very few of us appreciate the sound advice that her melodies and lyrics have to offer. College is a time in our lives when many of us are deeply involved in the dating game. We suffer through multiple break-ups, back-ons and variations of the word ‘commitment’ during our time on the college campus. As dating faux pas occur commonly on college campuses (often, embarrassingly enough, in public places), I offer you the words of Cher to curb your dating mishaps and to help you further enjoy your time in the college dating circuit.
“They say we’re young and we don’t know
We won’t find out until we grow
Well I don’t know if all that’s true
Cause you got me, and baby I got you”
These lyrics from the universally known “I Got You Babe” can teach us a thing or two about budding college relationships. The main thing is that the people around you probably won’t take it seriously at first (and considering the number of college relationships that last all of two weeks who can blame them?). Try to spend your time enjoying your new found romantic company while letting those naysayers remind you that you are still young, so this thing may not be set in stone (as Sonny and Cher weren’t). Enjoy the relationship without taking it or yourself too seriously, “Let’s see what happens” isn’t the worst thing a friend or loved one can say.
“I don’t know why I did the things I did
I don’t know why I said the things I said
Loves like a knife it can cut deep inside
Words are like weapons they wound sometimes.”
Don’t be distracted by the thong and sailors in the video; Cher’s “If I Could Turn Back Time” can teach us to select our words carefully in a disagreement with our significant other as well as to admit when we are wrong. I have seen too many college relationships go through the harsh and pathetic cycle of breaking up and getting back together all in a 24-hour period. This is emotionally taxing and not at all worth the pain and suffering that it can cause. We should all take a look in the mirror when reading this page of the Code of Cher and make a conscious effort to up the level of foresight as well of maturity in all of our collegiate romantic encounters.
“What I am supposed to do
Sit around and wait for you
And I can’t do that
There’s no turning back
I need time to move on
I need love to feel strong
Cause I’ve had time to think it through
And maybe I’m too good for you.”
“Believe,” the club hit, has become a dance anthem for gay men around the world, and rightfully so! But they shouldn’t be the only ones benefiting from what it has to teach! Many a time in college, we will choose to date people within our own group of friends (BAD IDEA right off the bat, but, whatever). This can really complicate a breakup, as it doesn’t allow for the nice clean break that is so helpful in the process of mourning the relationship and then moving on in a timely manner. When we breakup with someone in our social circle we need to prepare ourselves for the moment when they move on (and YES it is entirely possible that they are going to be the first to do so). Don’t be the subject of Cher’s song, BE CHER: end the relationship, move on, and don’t let lingering bitterness get in the way of the happiness that you deserve!